A couple years ago I didn't even leave the house. Today I am happy to say I rented my first accessible apt. Story in comments.

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13 Oct 2017 09:46 - +12001
After having suffered through 33 years of horrific manipulation and mental abuse and isolation and tantrums and the rest of the narcissistic characteristics of my parents, I am pushing hard. I found an accessible apt and rented it (I didn't hide the fact from them and yes they're pissed) but this doesn't mean I am in the end zone yet. I need several modifications to be made (they agreed to replace the faucets for example to ones I can reach and mount a different shower seat)... I am also waiting for my Waiver application to be approved so I can get a daily attendant at least for some things. I will go into serious expenditures here, not only a medical bed (which will be covered) but also other stuff like basic food, and gadgets like coffee maker and microwave. There's still a way to go.... For the past few years my depression has almost made me catatonic. I don't feel the relief and happiness I'm supposed to under these here circumstances. I will feel even worse if I fail miserably a few weeks down the line after pushing this boulder uphill for years and literally being suicidal every goddamn day. If anyone knows any accessibility items that will make my life easier please speak up. I am literally doing this alone and don't know squat. I am small and weak so whatever makes my life easier day to day is mucho welcome.
13 Oct 2017 10:08 - +5769
>>OP suffers a lifetime of abuse and setbacks. Gathers enough steam to break out on his own. Browses Reddit. I’d say everything checks out here. You’re going to be just fine.
13 Oct 2017 12:59 - +2619
An idea for your apartment... My sister has cerebral palsy and one year for Christmas I gave her my Amazon echo and set her up with smart lights. The coolest part about it is you can configure the lights to be voice activated! It's been a nice quality of life inprovement for sure as she can't get out of bed on her own once she is laying down so she gets an extra layer of Independence from it. Every little bit helps my friend! Sounds like you are on the right path and best of luck!
13 Oct 2017 12:01 - +1961
Congrats my dude! Kind of surprised to see someone im subbed to on YouTube show up on reddits front page.
13 Oct 2017 09:45 - +1719
Welcome to the world. It belongs to you too, always remember that.
13 Oct 2017 11:33 - +836
Totally unrelated, but I like your jacket dude! Looking sharp. Enjoy the new digs, best of luck to ya
13 Oct 2017 09:45 - +635
Whats in the cup?
13 Oct 2017 12:13 - +510
I don’t know jack shit about accessibility but I wanted to give you an internet high five!
13 Oct 2017 11:19 - +367
Just remember when you have a girl over, open the closet and say, “See? No skeletons.”
13 Oct 2017 10:07 - +338
Congratulations man! I know that feeling of being stuck, and almost canatonic, but you have taken a huge step! You have inspired me more than anything else has in a long time (I sincerely mean that). To have such a strong spirit to overcome your depression with a handicap, I am just so moved by your post. I wish you the best and I hope to see more of your posts in the future. Go get em buddy!
13 Oct 2017 10:26 - +255
Not to be weird, but the bathroom is very important. Non-slip surfaces, shower seating, grab bars, etc.
13 Oct 2017 10:29 - +166
Being in a wheelchair myself and having to deal with the state often I wish you the best of luck! Second, be sure to contact your local Department of Human Services and Social Security office. Definitely make sure you have help with setting up health insurance and possibly disability payments. Sounds like you're on track though with the caregiver. Congrats!
13 Oct 2017 10:43 - +155
I wish you great luck in this endeavor. Focus on the basics first. All a person really needs is toilet, shower, sink, stove/oven and a bed. Coffee maker and the nice things can be acquired later. I'm going to assume limited income so remember needs before wants always, food and rent before all else.
13 Oct 2017 14:09 - +91
Fellow Philadelphia area independent cripple here. There's a TON of resources out there for people like us. You just have to know where to look. I'd be happy to help you in any way I can. To start with, what exactly is your condition? Do you have insurance? Do you need skilled nursing or just home health aides to help with day to day stuff? Let me know what you feel comfortable sharing, and feel free to shoot me a message with any questions of your own! You've taken a huge first step. The rest should be a cakeroll.
13 Oct 2017 12:26 - +71
There is one thing no one ever tells you when you move out on your own the first time, but I'm going to give you a tip. Buy a plunger NOW. Don't wait until you need it!
13 Oct 2017 10:02 - +49
Takes a lot of strength to do what you've done. Keep going, at whatever pace you can. "This thing that we call 'failure' is not the falling down, but the staying down."
13 Oct 2017 10:34 - +47
I don’t know if I’d trust a place that doesn’t activate their Windows license.
13 Oct 2017 10:58 - +46
I love your smile! I wish I could give you a hug. Congrats honey.
13 Oct 2017 12:04 - +27
MY MAN. Good job on your crib homie, you should hang out over on Twitch.tv, its got a good community and if you like gaming you could potentially make some cash streaming, just a shot in the dark idea. I wish you luck on this great adventure!
13 Oct 2017 10:45 - +25
Fantastic!!! I wish you the best!!! Request your doc to refer you to a home care agency for a PT visit. They come in and assess for any other items/accommodations you may need. Contact a religious organization with a strong community outreach. They may be able to set you up with some household items. You should write a blog. You have a great sense of humor!
13 Oct 2017 11:08 - +17
Good for you! My grandma used to have a long stick with pincers on the end so she could grab things without having to get up or call for help. Pretty useful tool!
13 Oct 2017 12:25 - +14
I know that username! You used to (or still might) have a youtube channel. Saw a old BF3 vid of yours 6 years ago and still remember it. Keep it going!

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