LPT: If someone is willing to share other peoples secrets with you, they’re willing to share your secrets with other people.



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7 Dec 2017 19:23 - +1
A secret known to three is no secret.
7 Dec 2017 20:06 - +1
"A secret is something you tell another person one at a time"
7 Dec 2017 16:49 - +1
The only way you can truly trust someone is through mutual assured destruction
7 Dec 2017 20:00 - +1
And this is why I keep my secrets to myself. My wife is the only one who hears half of it. Alternatively, I find it quite humorous when people try and tell me something about my wife that I should keep secret from her. Lol...ok dude, yea, I totally trust and value you more than her -_-
7 Dec 2017 18:57 - +1
I remember being told that the moment you're willing to tell someone a secret is the moment that it's no longer a secret
7 Dec 2017 19:48 - +1
also pizza is delicious and water is wet. why does this even need to be said lol
7 Dec 2017 18:25 - +1
Yeah in general, pay attention to how someone treats other people. Even if they are not doing those things to your right now, they might start doing it later on.
7 Dec 2017 19:56 - +1
I do this but I only share secrets from people that have never met and won't
7 Dec 2017 19:14 - +1
Context is everything.
7 Dec 2017 20:03 - +1
I once told my former co-worker that my other former co-worker crashed in my place because she has no place to sleep after we went out and had a drink (it was 2AM). Nothing happened (I have a girlfriend). Rumors that I slept with her spread like wild fire. All of my co-workers, including all 3,000 employees in my company thought I had sex with her. She might as well group-emailed the whole company to make it easier.
7 Dec 2017 18:41 - +1
I don’t tell anyone stuff I don’t want to get around. Doesn’t matter who you are. I never talk about myself or personal things to coworkers. They know pretty much nothing about me. The more you talk the more people have to use against you.
7 Dec 2017 20:10 - +1
Same recylcled "tips" every month
7 Dec 2017 19:25 - +1
People who trash talk to you about others will trash talk to others about you.
7 Dec 2017 17:17 - +1
> Yeah, but I'm *different*. ^ The same logic that got me cheated on in the past.
7 Dec 2017 16:24 - +1
Please don't tell anybody. I mean, I have a big mouth and I tell everybody, but I don't want anybody to know how much I gossip...
7 Dec 2017 19:46 - +1
I had to learn this lesson the hard way.
7 Dec 2017 19:41 - +1
Mostly true, unless a S/O is involved. I just assume my friends tell their wives everything, but I know they're trustworthy.
7 Dec 2017 20:00 - +1
Y'all are some distrustful motherfuckers.
7 Dec 2017 19:26 - +1
Also, if someone talks badly about another "friend" behind their back...they will talk badly behind yours.
7 Dec 2017 20:01 - +1
never trust a gosip.
7 Dec 2017 19:31 - +1
Three can keep a secret (if two of them are dead) --poor richard
7 Dec 2017 20:04 - +1
Disagree. My SO and I share other people's secrets with each other, but would never tell each others to anyone else.
7 Dec 2017 19:32 - +1
Tried this on a friend I knew wasn't very trustworthy. We were out, her, my boyfriend and I. I sneak off to the bathroom with her to do a bump and after I tell her, "don't tell my boyfriend." Now not an hour has passed and I hear her loudly telling my boyfriend, "unicorntella is on coke!" Yup, a simple secret and she couldn't even keep it. My boyfriend didn't care and likely already knew, but I had found out that night that my friend is most definitely untrustworthy. Have not told her a secret since.
7 Dec 2017 20:08 - +1
Keep a secret and it's your slave. Tell it and it's your master.
7 Dec 2017 19:34 - +1
I'm probably one of the best people to tell a secret to. Not because I don't say anything, but because I forget about it and only remember when you bring it up in conversation 5 years down the road.
7 Dec 2017 20:11 - +1
Mainly don't tell anyone, anything.
7 Dec 2017 19:31 - +1
Mods should add a rule; Before posting, visit the first four pages of /r/LifeProTips/top
7 Dec 2017 18:51 - +1
And if a secret is willing to share a person with another secret, the secret will also share you
7 Dec 2017 19:54 - +1
LPT: If your life involves keeping a lot of secrets, your life is too dramatic, and you need to focus on the real world instead of all this social bullshit for a little bit.
7 Dec 2017 20:01 - +1
Relevant advice my mom gave me: any secret you tell a friend will be between you, said friend, and their husband/wife. I know my best friend’s s/o knows everything about me. I know everything about my s/o’s friends. It honestly doesn’t bother me that much.
7 Dec 2017 18:41 - +1
Ah, is it time for the weekly rewording of this post?
7 Dec 2017 19:29 - +1
My mom is always complaining to me about my dad and my sister...yes, I realize that she is also complaining about me to someone else. That's why I don't call her very often!
7 Dec 2017 19:47 - +1
Two can keep a secret if one of them is dead ~
7 Dec 2017 19:49 - +1
https://youtu.be/HzNFwxsSPwU
7 Dec 2017 19:28 - +1
Every person on this planet is guilty of this bullshit. Seems as though many people here still have their holier than thou blinders on.
7 Dec 2017 19:57 - +1
Those people i feed bullshit stories and try to start as much chaos as possible.
7 Dec 2017 17:39 - +1
Trust no one, trust yourself even less.
7 Dec 2017 20:00 - +1
Tonight my girlfriend did not tell me a secret about one of her family and I read this. Not a terrible coincidence as far as I'm concerned.
7 Dec 2017 19:52 - +1
The real pro tip here is how useful these people can be. If you want to get the word out about something, but you don't want the information to come from you, you tell a gossip.
7 Dec 2017 20:01 - +1
r/noshitsherlock
7 Dec 2017 19:57 - +1
Well, shit, there is always that subjective percentage that wont, but that it's always reflected on your preferred course of action. By experience, just share what you can afford to be known by the public, bearing in mind, that your enemies are always the first ones to get a hold of things that can be used against you. So just share what you want to be known.
7 Dec 2017 20:01 - +1
My work colleague... first day on the job and he’s telling people he slit his wrists when younger, was institutionalised in a care Home and is actively looking for a boyfriend. Way too much info.
7 Dec 2017 19:59 - +1
In this thread: paranoia
7 Dec 2017 20:03 - +1
I don't think there's anyone who can honestly say they never outed a secret.
7 Dec 2017 19:30 - +1
LPT: People who think people are either/or, are usually either/or themselves. High level secret sharing is usually verified by tests and chains of custody. i.e. You check with other friends if a secret you told to one friend has been shared, or your secret has a particular nugget of information that can be traced back to an individual if they leaked it. Over time, you develop a sense as to who can and can't be trusted. If you don't have such systems in place, it's likely because YOU can't be trusted.
7 Dec 2017 20:05 - +1
Also if they talk shit on everyone else while they're with you, there's a high probability they will talk shit on *you* when you're not around.
7 Dec 2017 17:53 - +1
Sooo truuuueee. I've experience it myself at work.
7 Dec 2017 20:08 - +1
How is that a tip?
7 Dec 2017 19:18 - +1
This skull is Fort Knox.
7 Dec 2017 20:09 - +1
I can keep secrets that people tell me, it's the people I tell them to that can't.
7 Dec 2017 19:37 - +1
true. Also, if someone is constantly talking badly about others behind their backs, they probably do it to you too.
7 Dec 2017 20:11 - +1
It has taken nearly 17 years to figure out the difference between a good friend sharing something private with me and a gossip, who makes you think they are confiding in you, so you confide in them.
7 Dec 2017 19:47 - +1
Jokes on you, I have no people friends to share secrets with.
7 Dec 2017 20:12 - +1
I cheated on girls in Highschool and college but after that I settled down and got married, not all the girls knew when I broke up with them or they broke up with me. For me it was more of a commitment thing, when I was dating I wasn't interested in marrying those girls or I didn't see it going on to marriage so I didn't treat the relationship as seriously maybe as I should have
7 Dec 2017 19:47 - +1
Psychologists dont think so.
7 Dec 2017 19:39 - +1
TL;DR: True story. My experience with it. I met someone like this when I first got to the school that I work at. I was a new 4th grade teacher and she was a experienced 5th grade teacher across the hall. We became friends and she was always gossiping. I didn't mind. I didn't know anyone, so I wouldn't add anything, just listen. There was another new 4th grade teacher who was beautiful, but she was recently married, and I joked one time that I should try to break up the marriage. The 5th grade teacher left the school after my first year, but we remained friends and I would hang out with her and her husband on a regular basis. Towards the end of my second year teaching, we were talking about team teaching at my school. The beautiful married 4th grade teacher and I had become friends and we decided to team teach the following year. I told this to the 5th grade teacher. Another 4th grade teacher ended up at a training with the 5th grade teacher and they began to chit chat. The 5th grade teacher told the lady that me teaming with the other 4th grade teacher was a bad idea because I was "obsessed with her and wanted to break up her marriage." The other 4th grade teacher came back and told me that and I was like "What the fuck?" First of all, I don't know how saying that the girl was attractive or joking that I was going to break up her marriage 2 years prior could be perceived as "obsessed" and secondly, why are you sharing that with someone else? I immediately cut ties. It sucked because I really likes hanging out with her and she was a decent mentor for me. Her love for drama and need to stir shit up, was just way too ridiculous.
7 Dec 2017 19:58 - +1
...Unless you're married. Then you're probably fine.
7 Dec 2017 19:50 - +1
This is why I don't make friends with coworkers.

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