Wholesome extroverts

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14 Feb 2018 06:32 - +2378
As an extrovert, you have to be mindful with your introverts. Too much interaction wears them out. And you have to give them their space regularly so they can recharge. Always use positive reinforcement by saying things like "I'm so glad you're here" instead of things like "Why can't you just have fun?" But most of all, remember: adopting an introvert is a big responsibility.
14 Feb 2018 07:22 - +877
I got cornered by an extrovert last night who was super excited to introduce me to everybody else there; one of the most terrifying events of my life.
14 Feb 2018 08:13 - +503
Introvert here I’m looking for an extrovert I promise I don’t bite and I’m up to date with all my shots
14 Feb 2018 05:40 - +155
That's how I made a friend once!!
14 Feb 2018 08:19 - +146
I prefer spending one on one time. It’s more intimate and allows for deeper conversations. I’m not socially awkward in group settings, I just prefer deeper conversations over polite chit chat and banter. It can be exhausting to feel like you have to be “on” in larger groups of circling people with random superficial conversations. What I hate the most is when a friend of mine will say something about me to others like .. “she’s so funny” or “this one time she did/said...”. Introverts, on many occasions can seem like extroverts when they are in the company of someone close to them whom they trust but, offering that side of them to others without allowing them to introduce that side themselves is never a pleasant experience for me. Don’t offer parts of them to others that they let you see because they’re comfortable with YOU. You should probably also accept the idea that if we do show up at a social function with a larger group, we’re probably already exhausted from the mental preparation it took just to get ourselves there. Gonna need a 72 hour nap afterwards.
14 Feb 2018 07:05 - +103
I think you got the yellow and orange labels mixed up
14 Feb 2018 08:55 - +93
ITT: Social Anxiety
14 Feb 2018 08:59 - +68
I feel like this is mistaking introverts for people with social anxiety. When I was a lot younger I was the type that needed "adopting", but as I've gotten older I've more or less gotten over my social anxiety. I'm still an introvert I'm just not afraid to talk to people anymore so I don't need "adopting".
14 Feb 2018 08:50 - +63
This is bullshit because introverted doesn't mean antisocial. You can make friends just as well introverted as you can as an extroverted person. Though they make fewer, they'll be even more quality and worthwhile friends too because that's generally what introverted people prefer. I feel like this post is just a rationalization made by shy and socially awkward people to justify themselves into not putting in work to meet other people and grow socially. To relinquish their responsibility in the hope that an external "extroverted person" will "adopt" them and solve their social problems.
14 Feb 2018 06:26 - +59
As someone who’s been there before, that can be an extrovert, or opportunist. Be mindful of who befriends you.
14 Feb 2018 08:57 - +30
I'm not an introvert but this seems like a shitty way to talk about introverts, as if they're some animal. Wholesomememes has started to become OnlyWholesomeToANicheFew
14 Feb 2018 07:26 - +29
Just be careful because there is a good chance that you are making that introvert very uncomfortable. And don’t go talk to an introvert because you want to go do your good deed for the day, we’re not charity cases. But yeah, if you think you can really get along with them, go for it.
14 Feb 2018 08:28 - +27
Pro tip for the introverts: please don't use your extrovert. I had a friend in college who I adopted and we ended up stopping being friends because she'd constantly beg me to hang out with her and her introverted boyfriend. The reason? That was the only way that they would talk to each other. I'm an extrovert and am happy to chit chat all day. But when I become your main/only source of social interaction, it gets exhausting.
14 Feb 2018 06:33 - +23
I think it's just about finding a match. Anyone can be an extrovert or an introvert depending on the conditions. The more positive affirmation you get from the people around you, the more you open up to them.
14 Feb 2018 06:16 - +8
Thank god for extroverts
14 Feb 2018 09:11 - +7
[And for the visual learners, here's how to adopt an introvert](https://youtu.be/MdG4f5Y3ugk)
14 Feb 2018 08:31 - +7
Cats at least count as close acquaintances!
14 Feb 2018 08:02 - +6
Sigh. First time something hit close to home when I stopped to think about it. My best friend is such the people person and all my additional friends I have met through him.
14 Feb 2018 09:31 - +4
Please make a chart how introverts find girlfriends, the dog isn't working for me there.
14 Feb 2018 09:20 - +4
It sucks though. When you get adopted you're not a person, your a cheap source of entertainment. You get carried around like a pet, never really respected as an equal.
14 Feb 2018 06:00 - +3
My life in general
14 Feb 2018 09:39 - +3
Replace dogs with cats and you've got it right.
14 Feb 2018 09:42 - +3
Yeah no, I'm not a dog please don't "adopt" me. Don't force yourself upon me just so that way you can pat yourself on the back later on. Sorry, but it just seems like whoever made it forgot to consider what the introverts want
14 Feb 2018 09:33 - +3
Classifying people into one of two exclusive and polar opposite categories is pretty shitty imo.
14 Feb 2018 08:29 - +3
still waiting...
14 Feb 2018 09:37 - +2
It's kind of sucks when you do find an extrovert that you really click with and get close to, then realize they are the same level of friendship with you as they are with literally everyone else in their life.
14 Feb 2018 09:27 - +2
I would know almost no one in my city if this extroverted lady (L.) had not befriended me. Even my dog came into my life because of her. She doesn't like dogs herself, but her friend's friend was looking for someone to take a shelter dog. She plays matchmaker like that all the time. L. is about 70 and has been collecting friends all her life, and then she introduces us to the rest of her collection. L. picked up one lady recently in a doctor's waiting room, and the new lady told us, "I'd never been picked up before." We all laughed a lot because L. had done pretty much the same thing to all of us. It's great. I'm so lucky to know her.
14 Feb 2018 09:22 - +2
Introverts are dogs, confirmed.
14 Feb 2018 09:37 - +2
I prefer other introverts. Especially those with dogs. We never have to go anywhere!
14 Feb 2018 09:48 - +2
I adopted a lot of introverts over the years. One in particular stands out. He was super scrawny and a head shorter than the rest of us. He was picked on a lot (I later found out) but that all ended when "the scary Mexicans" took him in. That was in junior high, over 20 years ago. I was the best man at his wedding. We hang out almost every weekend.
14 Feb 2018 07:07 - +2
this is how i make friends when i go out
14 Feb 2018 08:22 - +2
But what if your a mix of both?
14 Feb 2018 09:40 - +1
I can attest to this lol. Back in High School I was grouped with these extroverts (they were a circle of friends) for a Math project that took about a month to finish, so there were a lot of late nights and sleepovers. I guess my presence just became natural to them that even when the project was finished, they’d always invite me for movies or sleepovers. It’s been exactly 12 years and they’re still my closest friends to this day. I wasn’t so lucky with College though. I had to adopt a fellow introvert (more introverted than me lol) just so I could have a friend.
14 Feb 2018 09:33 - +1
Pretty much
14 Feb 2018 09:46 - +1
What am I a fucking dog? Lol
14 Feb 2018 09:27 - +1
Can someone adopt me?
14 Feb 2018 09:17 - +1
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14 Feb 2018 09:37 - +1
Unfortunately the reality is that doesn't happen frequently.
14 Feb 2018 08:01 - +1
Pretty much
14 Feb 2018 09:45 - +1
As an extrovert that studied software engineer I can say with confidence that my group of 6 friends would never had speak to each other without my help. Now we speak all the time, even after 3 years of finishing college.
14 Feb 2018 08:40 - +1
It’s always very fun to meet an extrovert who’s somewhat hyper and nice
14 Feb 2018 09:31 - +1
As a strange combination of the two, I take intoverts in and hope to be adopted by extroverts
14 Feb 2018 08:42 - +1
That's how I joined a friend group that saved me. Please if you are an extrovert then try and reach out/invite that quiet kid if they seem nice/chill from what you've experienced.
14 Feb 2018 09:35 - +1
Basically what happened to me was I was found by an extrovert and they sort of just decided I was part of their group and never mentioned it when I started hanging out with them. From that I made friends with this introverted girl they were friends with and then she became a major extrovert and it just spiraled to the point that most of the people in my school know who I am. For bad or for good it depends on the person.
14 Feb 2018 08:56 - +1
I’m a heavy extrovert and have lived 7 years with my Ex, which is an introvert (and was my best friends for 3 years before we got together). It’s not always easy to understand why introvert doesn’t want to join a party, event, or even a weekend with many people. While I can appreciate how difficult it is for you guys to socialize with groups, know that it’s not always easy for us to slow down. However, what I’d like to say is that, despite us coming too brazen, we (at least I) always do it because we genuinely like you! I’ve never introduced somebody to my friends, or invited someone to something if I did not enjoy his company and personality. It’s perfectly okay to say no, but just know that when we reach out, we mean it.
14 Feb 2018 09:40 - +1
Can confirm, I'm the introvert.
14 Feb 2018 09:02 - +1
That’s what happened to me the year I moved out of state in middle school. I really appreciated that.
14 Feb 2018 09:40 - +1
Every dating relationship I’ve ever had.
14 Feb 2018 09:07 - +1
I think that's what my friends have done with me lol
14 Feb 2018 09:25 - +1
Hello, yes, I am an introvert who is open to adoption. You can never have enough friends!
14 Feb 2018 09:11 - +1
Next pie chart: how introverts get gf/bf
14 Feb 2018 09:28 - +1
Where you extroverts at?
14 Feb 2018 09:14 - +1
Don't forget cats! Cats count too!
14 Feb 2018 09:33 - +1
u wot how how do you have access to my personal information
14 Feb 2018 09:17 - +1
This is so real, the only friends I have literally adopted me and would not leave me alone. Hell one time I agreed to go out with two of my friends. I got to my apmnt and promptly cut my phone off and went to sleep. They showed up and I wouldn't answer the door..so they climbed up to my deck on the second floor and snuck in through the screen door. I woke up to two giant guys jerking my blanket off . Scared the crap outta me. But we are friends to this day.
14 Feb 2018 09:34 - +1
As an introvert I wish extraverts would adopt me. Then I would actually have friends.
14 Feb 2018 09:18 - +1
I personally really like [this](https://youtu.be/MdG4f5Y3ugk) video on introverts.
14 Feb 2018 09:36 - +1
That is how I met my bestie! I was recently divorced and didn’t have many friends and I was hanging out with her ex, then we ran into her one night and she adopted me.
14 Feb 2018 09:19 - +1
All this time I thought I was an introvert, but apparently I’m not after reading the comments. But I’m also definitely not an extrovert. What am I?
14 Feb 2018 09:39 - +1
Can I be adopted?
14 Feb 2018 09:21 - +1
I'll get buried but this is how I got my username. Four dogs adopted me.
14 Feb 2018 09:40 - +1
This is how I got married
14 Feb 2018 09:23 - +1
I love adopting introverts! They're the sweetest weirdest people and I love all my introverted friends!! (Wholesome extrovert here)
14 Feb 2018 09:40 - +1
As an introvert, this is painfully true. I need friends and don’t know how to make them in college.
14 Feb 2018 09:23 - +1
Yup, this exactly. My closest friends are all extroverts and I don’t mind their “extrovertness” at all. They mostly just want to hang out with you and they’ll do most of the talking. Extroverts get a lot of flack over at r/introvert but a good extrovert is a god-send for introverts.
14 Feb 2018 09:45 - +1
Hi just wanted to let all the extroverts looking to adopt know that I am available!
14 Feb 2018 05:41 - +1
14 Feb 2018 09:46 - +1
Lol this is basically my best friend. How I have like 90% of my friends
14 Feb 2018 07:14 - +1
Too real

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