LPT: When someone is excited about something that isn't a good idea, don't burst their bubble right away. They won't be open to hearing the negative. Wait til they're in a more logical state and then ask the questions that will make them realize why it's not a good idea.



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14 Feb 2018 09:20 - +1304
Socratic method ftw.
14 Feb 2018 10:01 - +128
I started doing this awesome new thing called rolling coal!!!
14 Feb 2018 10:04 - +12
This is a good one
14 Feb 2018 12:53 - +1
It's absolutely helpful to help the other person see their decision from a different perspective. Another useful way to do that is to give thoughtful positive input on the good aspects of their idea (assuming there are some), so they can tell you understand the idea and respect their thought process. Then when you give constructive criticism, they're more likely to remember that you're on the same team (team friendship!) and take your input in the spirit in which it's intended.
14 Feb 2018 12:18 - +1
Man this is so timely. I’m in Louisville, KY where we have a radio channel 106.9 were they were having a contest to win tickets to a concert in which a caller has to prank a friend on air. This dude called in a said he’d prank his GF by breaking up with her on the phone. The two DJs were like ummmm bad idea however he insisted it wouldn’t be a problem and seemed pumped to do it. You could hear the pain in the GF voice. I turned the channel. Then I was like fuck it & turned back the gf was saying I think Il’l stay @ my sisters tonight so you can cool off. The DJs said they’d like to speak to them off air & they asked the guy a question which he didn’t respond to. When they came back from commercial they didn’t mention what happened. I don’t know what she said however she apparently hit back hard. Wish I could find out what she said. As soon as he said what he’d do I was like I thought “this stupid fuck is going to learn a hard lesson and regret he did it on air...forever. ”. I’m still like WTF was he thinking.
14 Feb 2018 12:03 - +1
--as long as you completely understand every angle of the thing they're talking about; if not you're just a narcissistic asshole who's using the Socratic method to strike your own ego.
14 Feb 2018 11:54 - +1
This LPT isn't a good idea...let me tell you why. ...oh wait...
14 Feb 2018 12:52 - +1
Not to be a dick, but this does not work with baby madness.
14 Feb 2018 12:27 - +1
I have a really dumb friend. Every time I see him he always has some new job or a new plan or a get rich quick scheme. This post is very relevant in the fact that it is hard to put a person with a bad idea down. It's like telling your son he's never gonna make it to the big leagues
14 Feb 2018 13:23 - +1
Reddit combating the backfire effect, I approve
14 Feb 2018 13:02 - +1
My friend just started selling tupperware and is trying so hard to get me to a party. I don't want to be a jerk but definitely don't have money to support a friend by buying junk I don't need. I tried talking her out of it. Guess I should be happy it isn't belly fat wraps or essential oils...
14 Feb 2018 12:55 - +1
Based off the work of Shelly Gable, you're right. With only one acception, you should show authentic interest in any news somebody (you want a relationship with) brings to you, including bad idea news. The only exception is if the news could prevent you from having a second conversation. As an example: I come up and tell you that I meet a new friend, Skinny Pete, and he and I are gonna go party down in Juarez in a few minutes with some coke or whatever the kids are into thesedays. This is a case where you should sit me down and talk/knock some sense into me. However, if I tell you about my new friend and my plan to go to Juarez (Tomorrow rather than today), this would be a good conversation A and B to have. In convo A, you show interest in what's going on with me. Later, during convo B, you show me some of your issues and address any concerns. Check out her work on active constructive responding. Basically says that anytime somebody asks for your attention, they're trying to build a relationship. And how you respond hurts or helps the relationship. Tl:Dr - when someone comes to you, really for anything other than 'Im about to fuck up my life in the next 5 minutes' you should show interest in the person. If you do not do this enough, the relationship will fall apart and they will stop bringing you anything.
14 Feb 2018 13:51 - +1
This kind of ties in with something I learned in one of my classes (my prof was doing a section on teamwork because it's really important in my field to learn how to work in groups) - Another reason why it's not a good idea to shut someone down right away is because you might need a bit of time to mull over the idea yourself. It might actually be a decent idea if you let them flesh it out, giving you the opportunity to think it out a bit more. It also helps foster a good working environment- people will feel more comfortable sharing ideas with you if you're open and are able to shut an idea down with tact.
14 Feb 2018 13:46 - +1
Hey, let’s launch my car into space. That’s be cool right?
14 Feb 2018 13:31 - +1
Lemme know when you’re in a more logical mood, then we’ll talk about your LPT.
14 Feb 2018 13:43 - +1
OP is a negative Nancy. Keep dreaming dreamers, you can't succeed if you listen to all the doubters.
14 Feb 2018 12:11 - +1
I always encourage people's bad ideas, especially at work. I like to see their disappointment and confused bewilderment when they fail. It pleases me. I am a terrible co worker.
14 Feb 2018 11:54 - +1
“So Jim, why are you wasting my time with this horrible idea?”
14 Feb 2018 12:33 - +1
Sooooo should I trade my house for Bitcoin or nah?
14 Feb 2018 13:53 - +1
“That’s the worst idea I’ve ever heard in my life, Tom.” “Yes, yes it’s horrible, this idea.”
14 Feb 2018 12:13 - +1
Make them realize their idea isn't good? I'd say showing them how their idea can be improved is more effective.
14 Feb 2018 12:24 - +1
I would sniff out this manipulation and I wouldn't appreciate it. I prefer straight up honesty.
14 Feb 2018 13:31 - +1
Friend: "I can make that jump." You: hmm he seems really pumped. I'll ask him questions about it later that will lead him to understand he can't make that jump "that's cool man." Friend: jumps. Does not make the jump.
14 Feb 2018 13:42 - +1
I think I need to show this to my wife, because she is the master balloon popper.
14 Feb 2018 12:55 - +1
It's not even so much that you will be less effective, it's that it kills a person's spirit. Give them a chance to be excited. Don't kill their creative energy.
14 Feb 2018 12:58 - +1
"Hey, isn't that something an idiot would do?"
14 Feb 2018 13:05 - +1
This is why shitty video games can get a ton of money even though they're obviously bad and just throwing buzzwords at you - people get hyped. It's also why criticizing any video games right after release is a bad idea, no matter how much merit you have - people refuse to accept that *their game* could have any flaws whatsoever.
14 Feb 2018 13:28 - +1
As a person who gets tons of bad ideas that sound great at conception, this is a very true LPT.
14 Feb 2018 13:12 - +1
This should be reposted in r/antimlm
14 Feb 2018 12:45 - +1
What if they already signed the 5 year lease?
14 Feb 2018 12:25 - +1
But then what if they act on it straight away, cause a problem, and it all could have been prevented it you just told them?
14 Feb 2018 12:57 - +1
And / or, control your own mind, be in emotional control about your own ideas, be willing to test them out, and actively listen to others’ input.
14 Feb 2018 12:33 - +1
correct response: 'Hey, you do you.'
14 Feb 2018 13:44 - +1
This is a great tip. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
14 Feb 2018 13:27 - +1
Legit lpt. I do this sometimes and have noticed people doing to me. Feels way better than someone immediately stopping you with an argumentative tone because then you get defensive and there's an entirely pointless argument you have to go through.

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