I asked out the most handsome man ever, just to see what would happen...
I want to share with you something that just happened to me, because it ended up really being eye opening to me and I'm still a little bit amazed at the whole affair.
To understand what happened, you need to know two things - first the man I believed was the love of my life broke up with me out of the blue and it was a slap in the face, I'm talking weeks of crying. Second I'm struggling with mild social anxiety and lack confidence greatly.
Anyway, a week after the break up, my friends dragged me to a party. My heart was still in pieces so I wasn't too much in the mood, but I went anyway. I tried my best too have a good time.
Then I spot a man that is just unbelievably handsome. Tall, muscled, gorgeous smile and beautiful face, you know just all over hot. I saw him and my first reaction was "There's no way a man that handsome would ever want to talk to a girl like me." And let me just emphasize that I was not thinking about him taking interest in me or liking me or anything like that... I genuinely thought a guy like him wouldn't want any kind of contact with me.
But then I fought "Fuck it. Maybe he does actually... Who am I to suppose what he wants." And you know, thinking I didn't have much too loose, I went over and introduced myself. We had a nice little talk, he was really nice and genuinely happy to talk. Then I let him go his way, went my own and enjoyed my night. We talked a couple more time that night and that was that.
But after that night I figured it would be nice to see him again. I didn't have any hidden intention other than getting to know someone new. So I asked a common friend for his number and, after asking a panel of friends if that would be weird or perceived as an aggression, I sent him a little text that said "Hey, it's Sabi from the party Saturday... Would like grabbing a coffee sometime ?"
Before sending it, my friends asked me if I was ready for him to say no. They asked me if he had a gf or if he was gay and to be fair, I had no idea. But I figured I didn't have much to loose. And I was ready for the fact that he might not want to hang out with me. And I thought that would be okay, that it wouldn't make me anything less as a person.
After sending the text, I put the phone down and starting talking with my friends about how the worst would be waiting for his answer and maybe he wouldn't answer at all ? But before the conversation was over my phone lit up and I add a text saying "Hey :) I would love that actually !"
At that point I was ecstatic... I couldn't believe it, the most handsome man ever willing to grab a coffee with me ?? WHAT ?
We then arranged to meet the next day in the afternoon... Which was yesterday. And let me just say it went well :)
It was everything I hopped it would be, an honest, pleasurable chat with a stranger, that lasted just a bit too long (6h!!) to be innocent but totally without any kind of pressure. But the thing I found out, the whole point of that story and what really blew my mind is how insecure that man is. He doesn't even see himself as handsome !!! Actually, the most handsome man I ever saw probably couldn't believe that a girl like *me* just texted him out of the blue...
So this whole things got me thinking about how we perceive ourselves and other people... How we *think* other people perceive us. Maybe it's time to stop being so hard on ourselves, and wary of other people...
Edit : For the people wondering, even though it's not really the point of the story, I'm a 26y/o French girl... You people all warmed my heart, you're awesome, and I'm really sorry for the couple grumpy people that seems to still be struggling big time with their insecurities. You'll get there and we love you :)
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