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17 Apr 2018 06:49 - +6514
Is she talking about Batman? Because it sounds like she's talking about Batman.
17 Apr 2018 07:07 - +2213
Don't associate with people that do this, seriously. Some people are legit hurting and they need help. Bring them back up. However, some people go out of their way to get hurt, because they're nothing with out it. Cut them out of your life. If you see someone hurting, reach out. If they decline, and stay pretty silent, they might just need time/reassurance. If they decline, and then constantly post bullshit about nobody caring about them, they're just looking for attention. I've helped a lot of people out, but I've also put a lot of effort into people that didn't appreciate it.
17 Apr 2018 07:27 - +1451
Hardest thing I ever did was forgive my dad for abandoning my sister and I. What's worse is when I reconnected with him I learned his childhood was more fucked up than mine...we got too many broken men breaking their children.
17 Apr 2018 07:01 - +747
By 'depressed people' standards I'm a ray of sunshine but take away the depression and I'm just a kind mid-20's piece of shit.
17 Apr 2018 07:28 - +407
Why do people think on twitter they are Psychologists...
17 Apr 2018 07:16 - +303
I now know why Donald Duck won't heal me in Kingdom Hearts
17 Apr 2018 09:02 - +206
It took me years before I was ready to move past it. Healing felt like I was giving up on my past and who I was. I'm glad I was wrong, though.
17 Apr 2018 10:12 - +159
More like, abusers make you think they have your identity and won’t give it back. It takes a long time to realize you do have it inside of you but your identity is fractured. It’s not even fear, it is “I literally don’t know where ‘me’ is.” The proof it is not fear is that when you see a glimpse of who you are and that your abuser does not actually have it or own it, you will be ready to destroy worlds with all the fury of hell and glory of heaven to recover it. To recover the self. I’ve tried a lot of things to treat mental illness. Some things helped a little. Some things did the opposite and made my symptoms worse. After 17 years of trial and error, this is what is working for me. These are all self disciplines (also, I’m not against medication. medication can help with symptom management and free up resources to build/learn these skills). 1. Meditation We’ve all heard it’s good. I can honestly say, for me, that this is not what directly heals things. It provides the vital space to heal. For me it is to build a workshop that I feel free to play and build in without shutting down or freezing when stress happens. I recommend alternating between mindfulness (more silent and sustained focus, building non attachment) and gratitude based meditation. 2. Nonviolent Communication This is foundational because it helps me listen for feelings and needs, refrain from judgments, and build up an impeccable understanding of things that are NOT feelings and needs, but often thought of as such. This is the language skill that helps with everything else. 3. Reparenting the self. This is a bit strange but it has helped me more than anything (and I could make a long list of things I’ve tried). I basically visit my “selves” (or parts of me), and bring them comfort, words they needed to hear and, for lack of a better term, salvation. To protect, care for, and recover my “selves” that have been traumatized. 4. Internal Family Systems As a person who tried everything, I avoided this one because I thought it would require me to talk to my family. Holy cow I wish someone told me that has nothing to do with it years ago! It’s an extension of reparenting, and is a way to relate to your internal “parts.” Like the judging voice, the child voices, and the lost aspects of self. The goal is to reintegrate “exiles” that your survival mechanisms abandoned, and once you begin locating and integrating these exiles, it feels automatic, like my brain was waiting for the green light for this activity, but just needed me to demonstrate that the timing is right. I share this in hopes that maybe just one person will have some success and I could save someone the pain and suffering I went through for so long. I won’t go into it, but I’ll say it was very bad and I’m lucky to still be alive.
17 Apr 2018 10:06 - +97
I’m going back to studying, this meme just made procrastinating not fun
17 Apr 2018 10:15 - +69
Reasons this rings so true even though it's just unscientific pop psych garbage lifted from a copy of Marie Claire: 1. Traumatized people often have low self-esteem which biases them towards blaming themselves for all their problems - or believing others who do the same. 2. Victimizers will believe anything that puts the blame for the problems they've caused on someone else. 3. Everyone else wants an excuse not to help the traumatized - it's their own fault they aren't healed.
17 Apr 2018 07:25 - +57
Damn. I won’t be able to look into a mirror for the rest of the day.
17 Apr 2018 10:49 - +54
This is too real. I've been in therapy for a few years, just started seeing a new therapist like 8 months ago because I wasn't making progress with my previous one. After about 4 sessions with this new guy he was like, "I have to point out something I've noticed, you frequently bring up really traumatic things that have happened to you." I was like, "yeah, this is therapy, isn't that what you do? Reference the shit you went through and how it affected you?" He was like, "yeah that can be helpful and it's important to recognize it, but the point isn't to find the source of the trauma and say 'ok there it is, end of story', it's to identify how you react to the trauma and change the way you react to it." It seems really obvious now but that was mindblowing at the time. It's just really easy to blame the way you feel and how you react to those feelings on trauma.
17 Apr 2018 10:56 - +32
Shit like this wannabe Psychologist is saying damages people who are actually suffering. Taking her word, individuals will probably be more inclined to dismiss others for not healing quickly, furthering the "they don't want to get better because they're not getting better attitude" that's already far too prevalent in the developed world.
17 Apr 2018 08:51 - +24
What the fuck does this even mean
17 Apr 2018 07:25 - +22
Hard pill
17 Apr 2018 06:58 - +22
Me too, thanks.
17 Apr 2018 07:31 - +20
That "Unknown" is what everybody goes through, it's more comforting to know that but some people revolve there whole life around the trauma and demand that you do too, until they become to toxic to associate with!
17 Apr 2018 08:49 - +19
Haha...ha..haa aaah shit this is me isn't it.
17 Apr 2018 07:52 - +17
Girl, he only fucked you over cause you let him Fuck him, girl, I guess he didn't know any better Girl, that man didn't show any effort Do all I can just to show you you're special
17 Apr 2018 10:09 - +17
I’d like to heal but I don’t know where to start.
17 Apr 2018 09:10 - +14
this applies to black people collectively. we spend a lot of time looking backwards.
17 Apr 2018 10:14 - +6
That's just the thing, trauma doesn't go away, it and how one copes with it just become part of what makes a person. Asking someone to be who they are outside of trauma is like asking them to be the person they would be without their race or gender. Look, can you just not white for, like, 5 minutes?
17 Apr 2018 08:20 - +6
Oh SHIT. This just might be me fam. TIL
17 Apr 2018 12:25 - +6
As BoJack would steal, "Don't fetishize your own sadness"
17 Apr 2018 10:20 - +5
Trauma? I'm tryna heal from this debt
17 Apr 2018 10:45 - +5
she must have found Tumblr
17 Apr 2018 08:47 - +5
This is a theme in Worm, which is probably the best work of superhero fiction I've read. I strongly recommend it!
17 Apr 2018 10:52 - +5
This is me trying to deal with my friend's crippling daddy issues. I have given up, because if I try to help in any way she lashes out at me. Her whole life is men abusing her, that's all she knows and she won't have it any other way.
17 Apr 2018 10:20 - +4
It is also troubleing when trauma only partially changes you because you haven't become a completely different person and still feel like you haven't changed, and people see that. What people don't see is that you still can't go back to how you were beforehand. It's like having a round trip ticket, but your train derailed; you can still go back where you where but it won't be the same without the luggage you lost.
17 Apr 2018 09:55 - +4
This qualifies for the 'bad title' flair
17 Apr 2018 10:54 - +4
I am afraid to heal because I don't like the entire team relying on me to save their asses. Too much pressure.
17 Apr 2018 08:59 - +4
So true. It’s so sad when people let their illness/diseases become their identity. It’s an easy trap to fall into with diseases that affect almost every aspect of your life. I see this often in the field I work in, and it’s such and unfortunate mindset which often turns into a life path.
17 Apr 2018 10:08 - +3
This shit is real af This is how a lot of people with substance abuse issues operate. I used to be like that, and I try to point it out to my friends that are still in the shit but they just dont listen :/

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